Day 1: You’re Doing It Wrong! 3 Simple Steps To Anger Management - Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement

Day 1: You’re Doing It Wrong! 3 Simple Steps To Anger Management - Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement


Face

Face your feelings. Don’t focus on who made you feel the way you’re feeling, but be aware of your emotions (especially if you expect to redirect them).
If your boat was flooding with water, you’d care about plugging the leak, not who made the hole. Own your feelings. No matter who may have helped you into a negative state, the only one who can change it is you.
Embrace
Embrace your feelings by internally thanking the other person or situation for triggering your emotions.
Sound crazy?
At their core, most people have a fear of not being good enough, or that they aren’t truly loved. But in gratitude there can be no fear. See the other person as your child, or as your child self. Experience what they are feeling.
Instead of focusing on what they did to trigger you, understand how bad they must feel inside to be acting out. It’s really not about you, it’s about them and their internal pain.
Once you thank them for helping you surface deep-rooted feelings, you can diffuse their power by accepting them as a part of you.
Erase
Once you’ve faced and embraced your feelings (and thanked the person who brought them to you), you can lay the rest down. There’s really nothing else to do.
Reaction will only bring more negative energy to the situation. Turning a blind eye is telling yourself you aren’t worthy of more. But facing and embracing can eliminate the worst without any effort from you.
Keeping the focus on you means loving yourself. No one is perfect, and m
ost people do their best with what they have. Love yourself for every thing you do right and every thing you do wrong…because that’s what makes you, YOU.